Rules To Follow

1. Never date a co-worker.  I broke this twice.  Both times the girl was only using me to make her boyfriend jealous.  The first time involved someone at Crocker Bank.  She asked me to a Halloween party.  My time with her lasted that one night and never involved more than the party.  The second time was at T&T (Townsend) and involved the receptionist.  She asked me out and were together a few weeks.  She decided to go back to her prior boyfriend after he returned to town.  I think she said he had gone skiing.  I wanted to break this rule with a girl I met at T&T but found out she was already engaged.  Funny how he became my friend eventually.  Which brings me to my next rule.
2. Never date your friends.  The dynamic changes and if it doesn’t work out you may have lost a friend too.
3. If she has a boyfriend (or husband), hands off!

I sort of broke #1 twice while at CNB but she had just quit so I felt it didn’t apply.  I worked alongside her about 3 years and she just broke up with her boyfriend.  She was Jessie’s Girl http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jessie's_Girl.  I didn’t know her that well outside the office but I was enamored by her sense of humor and except for a dental issue (which I could certainly relate to) she was a knockout.  I finally went to her house and it just went downhill from there.  She had an 8-year old son.  When I first saw her house, it was in disarray.  Dirty clothes and dishes – well it seemed more like a bachelor pad or someone lived there who the word cleanliness just didn’t mean much.  Little in the cupboard or fridge either.  I was about to find out what was important.  The rent was due but she needed to get some cocaine first.  I didn’t really do that (although I did try it once without much success) but was willing to go with her while she scored.  We did get some and there wasn’t much left for rent.  Oh well.  I did snort some but all it seemed to do is numb my nose a bit and until it wore off I just felt weird.  I’m glad I never developed such an expensive habit.  I spent the night but I guess for someone used to the high her reaction was a bit different.  We never did anything and it sure seemed like after fanticizing about her for almost 3 years, I wanted it to be more.  I left in the morning before she awoke and never returned.  Her name was Debbie Bell and her son was Michael.  I hope they are doing ok.